Hi Andrea,
I met a man on the Internet last summer. We exchanged letters and telephone calls for a little over a month, then decided to have a face to face meeting. I made reservations for two rooms. That Friday I left work, and took a bus to the hotel. My new friend was waiting in the lobby when I arrived. We greeted one another, and began what turned out to be a two day marathon of great conversation minus time out for sleep. We walked over to Costco for the hot dog special, then back to the hotel where we drank tea and coffee in the restaurant.
The second time, his visited the city where I lived lasted six days including the Thanksgiving holiday in late November. We did some sightseeing. He visited my place of employment and met my friends. After that, we decided to spend two weeks with my family during Christmas. I enjoyed the second and third visits even more than I could have ever imagined.
One of my sons made a trip to meet my friend's adult children. They took him to visit interesting places during his stay. Upon their return from that journey, I made a trip to visit the city where my friend lived. I visited his place of employment, and met his coworkers, friends, and neighbors. Now it was my turn to meet my friend's family. We had the airline tickets tucked away and ready to go. My family wanted accompany us for a two week visit with his parents, siblings, and friends.
A coworker asked me if I truly and passionately loved this man whom I was planning to marry. I simply smiled in rely to this very personal question. In retrospect, I realized that I firmly believed that this was the person with whom I meant to grow old.
What precautions did we take to protect ourselves against the dangers involved in meeting a total stranger? First of all, we exchanged telephone numbers. Second, during the time we spent together, both on the Internet and the telephone, much of our conversation dealt with goals, objectives, and values clarification. Third, we checked identification, credentials, education, employment, FBI, credit reports, and exchanged resumes. Fourth, my family and friends were fully aware of my activities and movements, and had full knowledge of his identity and personal information. Fifth, the sole, direct, and explicit purpose of the initial contact was legal marriage. We were searching for life long mates.
I look forward to talking to him. I think he is has a great sense of humor. He is quite intelligent, and a great conversationalist. He is an attractive individual. He likes to talk as much as I do! We both have broad interests and adventuresome natures. I am much happier now that I've found him. He is not the type of person I might find at a museum, night club, local bar, in a college course, on the ski slope, or sitting on a towel at the beach. We are both busy people with a great deal of responsibility. I can get along without a husband, and he can continue on without a wife. However, we both agree that together, life sure is nice.
Long Distance Relationships Can Work Out
Hi,
First of all, it's nice to see that there are still many places available for internet relationships to flourish. Even today, when I tell new friends how me and my wife, Sue, met, we receive the good old "oh yeahhh" accompanied by a half-hearted smile and awkward silence. Uggggh..
I thought I would like to write a whole story on how me and my wife met.
You'll find poems on that site, including this one, that Sue wrote about living apart.. The site is a bit primitive, but I'm thinking of making changes...
Sounds confusing? So, believe us, long distance relationships can work out:-)
First of all, it's nice to see that there are still many places available for internet relationships to flourish. Even today, when I tell new friends how me and my wife, Sue, met, we receive the good old "oh yeahhh" accompanied by a half-hearted smile and awkward silence. Uggggh..
I thought I would like to write a whole story on how me and my wife met.
You'll find poems on that site, including this one, that Sue wrote about living apart.. The site is a bit primitive, but I'm thinking of making changes...
"Can you tell me soldier what it was really likeWe have recently travelled back to Canada for two weeks. We wanted to get married in front of family and friends, all of whom went so much out of their way to accept her in the new family. We did this just a few days before our 1st anniversary!! Then, natch, we went on our "second honeymoon" at the very place we went to on our wedding day, a year ago.
to spend so much time away from your every loving wife?
Did she cry, kiss your photo and try so hard to pretend
what it would be like together again, when the war was ever likely to end?
There wasn't?t a phone, a card or a letter for months at a time
So how would you hear or see the words ?When will you be mine?
How did your love hold tight through all those cold dark nights,
braving the wartime, maybe the jungle or life threatening fights? How did you remember her face, her touch, the smell of her perfume,
when it was sometimes ?years? before your love life could resume?
Dancing with strangers trying to live what life you had far away,
trying hard not to get too involved or let your love go astray.
So why all these questions? Is another war coming soon?
No, I don?t think so, just that my hero is coming home too,
but, not from a war or even a fight,
just a long loving distance after his flight,
but, I want him to see, many people share our same sweet sorrows,
as your answers are important to help us believe in our many tomorrows"
Sounds confusing? So, believe us, long distance relationships can work out:-)
True Soulmates In The Making
I didn't believe in finding love online. I thought it was full of perverts, rapists, etc. One day, I was in a chat room, just bored out of my mind, because I was visiting my brother in Seattle and he was currently at work. So, I just basically put "Anyone wanna chat?" Little did I know that the man of my dreams would IM me.
I was in a relationship at the time. It wasn't a very good one, though. My ex-boyfriend, Mike, whom I was dating then, was constantly getting jealous of my guy friends and he was very insecure about my love for him. I have to be honest, I did love him. I still do, kinda. But he brought the relationship to an end, not me. He pushed me directly into Chris, my new boyfriend and my best friend's arms.
We just started talking about stupid stuff. And I asked if I could put him on my buddylist. He said yes and placed me on his. After talking online to each other every day for about a week or so, he asked me if we could talk on the phone. I, of course, was scared. The main reason being that I really didn't know him and he could have been a pervert or someone just looking for a good time.
And he also lived in Florida, which was a slight problem. I had a couple phone cards to use so I wouldn't rack up my brother's phone bill. When I dialed all the numbers, I was extremely nervous. Afraid of what he would sound like. To be truthful, I thought he might have been some 50 year old, over weight, balding man who just wanted a younger girl to talk to. We talked for five hours that night, and I'm very shy when it comes to talking on the phone for the first time or meeting a person for the first time. So, it was just basically him making me laugh.
He also had his eyes set on someone. But, later on, she had decided to go with someone else and she told him that she didn't feel the same way he did. I was having problems with Mike, and Chris helped me through it, reassuring me everything would be alright. Later on, I found out that he was jealous of Mike, because one night, I IMed Chris with Mike's screen name.
And now, we have been talking for about four months or so online and on the phone. I am planning to visit him in the near future and, eventually, move to Florida to live with him. And marriage is going to be a part of the picture. Not right away, but in time. I love him with my heart and soul. I would do anything for him. And I know he feels the same. Now, some may call us crazy and say that love can't happen over long distances. But I truly think that we're soul mates in the making.
Veronica Fitzgerald
I was in a relationship at the time. It wasn't a very good one, though. My ex-boyfriend, Mike, whom I was dating then, was constantly getting jealous of my guy friends and he was very insecure about my love for him. I have to be honest, I did love him. I still do, kinda. But he brought the relationship to an end, not me. He pushed me directly into Chris, my new boyfriend and my best friend's arms.
We just started talking about stupid stuff. And I asked if I could put him on my buddylist. He said yes and placed me on his. After talking online to each other every day for about a week or so, he asked me if we could talk on the phone. I, of course, was scared. The main reason being that I really didn't know him and he could have been a pervert or someone just looking for a good time.
And he also lived in Florida, which was a slight problem. I had a couple phone cards to use so I wouldn't rack up my brother's phone bill. When I dialed all the numbers, I was extremely nervous. Afraid of what he would sound like. To be truthful, I thought he might have been some 50 year old, over weight, balding man who just wanted a younger girl to talk to. We talked for five hours that night, and I'm very shy when it comes to talking on the phone for the first time or meeting a person for the first time. So, it was just basically him making me laugh.
He also had his eyes set on someone. But, later on, she had decided to go with someone else and she told him that she didn't feel the same way he did. I was having problems with Mike, and Chris helped me through it, reassuring me everything would be alright. Later on, I found out that he was jealous of Mike, because one night, I IMed Chris with Mike's screen name.
And now, we have been talking for about four months or so online and on the phone. I am planning to visit him in the near future and, eventually, move to Florida to live with him. And marriage is going to be a part of the picture. Not right away, but in time. I love him with my heart and soul. I would do anything for him. And I know he feels the same. Now, some may call us crazy and say that love can't happen over long distances. But I truly think that we're soul mates in the making.
Veronica Fitzgerald
Unconditional Love Across Borders
My story started on a Friday afternoon of November 15, 1998 when I received a phone call from my college friend who asked me what was keeping me busy. Like usual its my 8-5 job that always eats my time from Monday to Saturday. I don't even have time to go out and relax on Saturday because I am always occupied.
She told me that she was busy chatting on the net and she invited me one day to drop by in her place on a Saturday night and she would teach me chatting. In December after Christmas, sure it was still a holiday here in the Philippines, I stayed in her place for 4 days just to learn everything on line. She created an account for me in ICQ and started chatting last December 27, 1998. I used to do random seeking and suddenly a nick "skunk" appeared like magic on the screen, not knowing that this would someone I would love unconditionally one day. We introduced each other and started chatting. He is from Indonesia, a moslem and 4 years younger than me. I am from Philippines, a christian and 25 years old during that time. We didn't think of that differences during our first meeting because we didn't know that all this online thing will be real.
After that night me and skunk talked on the net for hours every Saturday night for the last 6 months. We told each other secrets that we have never shared with anyone before. We already heard each others voice on the phone and it was really great. Our feelings came pouring out, we officially became a couple and ended our night with an I love you. A feeling that was true for both of us. So our relationship went only online. We made our plans to see each other and agreed that I would come first since he was still studying and it was one of my dreams to travel outside the Philippines. We ended up talking for sometime, sharing many things about one another. We love each other so much.
If anything good has come to us being so far apart is that we built a strong form of communication and that is what will get us through the trials that lied ahead of us. The distance can be overwhelming at times, and that's the reason most internet couples don't last. I will admit it gets very difficult at times, it got to be the point where we should cry at the mere thought that we may never actually be together though we already planned it.
Time come and we started arguing about most stupid things and seems that were believing that all our sacrifices will come into waste. Our relationship was too special to be left alone. Even as "just friends" we would still e-mail each other a lot and tell one another that we really love each other. We got through it and everything turned out great. Now all we can do is keep reminding each other that there is so much love between us. We are made for on another and we will be together someday. We know that there will be times we will surely give up but if we can keep each other strong we know that our love is enough to last till the end of our days.
Finally the day came when we met. It was April 11, 2001. I travelled 10 hours by train from Jakarta to Yogyakarta in the place where he lived. I arrived at around 6 am and he was already waiting at the train station since 5 am. We ran into each others arms and hug each other so tight. We spent the best 5 days together, both tasted each other's warm lips and it was the best kiss i have ever had in my life. My visit was really great, they treated me like a member of their family. We went to a lot of beautiful places in his province as seen in the pic and when we are together, its like there's a lot of love around us but when I left it was so difficult for both of us. He went back with me in Jakarta and spent almost 24 hours together for the last time. Our only consultation was that we would see each other again. I love you was the last word we said when we parted in the train station in Jakarta. I'm back in my country and we are still emailing each other.
Im looking forward to see my story on you site. Thank you sooo much and more power.
Best regards,
Eloy
She told me that she was busy chatting on the net and she invited me one day to drop by in her place on a Saturday night and she would teach me chatting. In December after Christmas, sure it was still a holiday here in the Philippines, I stayed in her place for 4 days just to learn everything on line. She created an account for me in ICQ and started chatting last December 27, 1998. I used to do random seeking and suddenly a nick "skunk" appeared like magic on the screen, not knowing that this would someone I would love unconditionally one day. We introduced each other and started chatting. He is from Indonesia, a moslem and 4 years younger than me. I am from Philippines, a christian and 25 years old during that time. We didn't think of that differences during our first meeting because we didn't know that all this online thing will be real.
After that night me and skunk talked on the net for hours every Saturday night for the last 6 months. We told each other secrets that we have never shared with anyone before. We already heard each others voice on the phone and it was really great. Our feelings came pouring out, we officially became a couple and ended our night with an I love you. A feeling that was true for both of us. So our relationship went only online. We made our plans to see each other and agreed that I would come first since he was still studying and it was one of my dreams to travel outside the Philippines. We ended up talking for sometime, sharing many things about one another. We love each other so much.
If anything good has come to us being so far apart is that we built a strong form of communication and that is what will get us through the trials that lied ahead of us. The distance can be overwhelming at times, and that's the reason most internet couples don't last. I will admit it gets very difficult at times, it got to be the point where we should cry at the mere thought that we may never actually be together though we already planned it.
Time come and we started arguing about most stupid things and seems that were believing that all our sacrifices will come into waste. Our relationship was too special to be left alone. Even as "just friends" we would still e-mail each other a lot and tell one another that we really love each other. We got through it and everything turned out great. Now all we can do is keep reminding each other that there is so much love between us. We are made for on another and we will be together someday. We know that there will be times we will surely give up but if we can keep each other strong we know that our love is enough to last till the end of our days.
Finally the day came when we met. It was April 11, 2001. I travelled 10 hours by train from Jakarta to Yogyakarta in the place where he lived. I arrived at around 6 am and he was already waiting at the train station since 5 am. We ran into each others arms and hug each other so tight. We spent the best 5 days together, both tasted each other's warm lips and it was the best kiss i have ever had in my life. My visit was really great, they treated me like a member of their family. We went to a lot of beautiful places in his province as seen in the pic and when we are together, its like there's a lot of love around us but when I left it was so difficult for both of us. He went back with me in Jakarta and spent almost 24 hours together for the last time. Our only consultation was that we would see each other again. I love you was the last word we said when we parted in the train station in Jakarta. I'm back in my country and we are still emailing each other.
Im looking forward to see my story on you site. Thank you sooo much and more power.
Best regards,
Eloy
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